Thursday, October 4, 2012

any fool can make a baby...

Why try and say it, when someone else has already done it so aptly

On Saturday night my teenage children's father got married.
Laura and Nathan found out via the facebook status update of their now stepmother. (I'm beginning to agree with M's renaming - fuckbook)
My son was confused, and asked to call his father. Nat spoke to him for all of two minutes, to be informed that yes he had gotten married, and that no, his wife's children where not there. Once he got off the phone he became very emotional and upset, and wanted to be left alone, and proceeded to shoot anything and everything on C.O.D.
My daughter raged with fury- for her, for her little brother, for all the times that her father has hurt her and her brother.
The lioness within me roared. How could he be so insensitive to his children? How dare he be so selfish! How dare he.... behave as he always has.
Laura's initial reaction of fury fell away two days later, finally revealing her real feelings. "HE DOESN'T EVEN CARE ABOUT US!!!" she screamed sobbing at me this morning.
What can I say to that? How do I act with grace when all I want to do is scream at this man how can he be so hurtful AGAIN to our children? He doesn't see the hurt, the tears, the confusion, the questions... he doesn't have to deal with any of that. I do. Again.
Will he ever think of them and their feelings? Am I expecting too much?


  1. <3 <3 <3 At their age now babe, they are going to have to decide whether they want to continue getting hurt by him, or cut ties with him. And it bloody sucks. For their sake I hope they cut ties with him, he doesn't deserve to have such amazing children.

  2. Hey, I just picked a random blog to visit from the Blogtoberfest sign-up list. I was going to leave a funny comment, but I can see you're not in a good space and that's not appropriate. Please just accept positive vibes (which for me = prayer). I hope your kids find a good way of dealing with the situation.

  3. Oh, that's a pretty painful way of finding out! xxx


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