tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2578946806790913213.post3657556616676818790..comments2023-10-11T02:04:56.513+10:00Comments on Life on the hill: This isn't about me this is about ...Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17077972791398339893noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2578946806790913213.post-47549304686276082902011-03-29T19:09:33.253+10:002011-03-29T19:09:33.253+10:00This makes the 'little girl' within me ach...This makes the 'little girl' within me ache as well...despite the distance.. You can only be guided by those that hold all the cards and hope that they do not read them wrong.<br /><br />I still feel that Aston deserves the right to choose whether he has a relationship or not.. herein lies the problem. Bye the time he is old enough to make that decision a lot of the chances to bond in a meaningful way will be passed..but then that may not be a bad thing when balanced against trauma induced by 'bad behaviour' on R's behalf.. So much good can come from this..the converse is also true. Try to take off your 'ex' hat, your 'mummmy' guise and keep the little girl inside. Use your powers as a wise woman that you are and access the situation on its merits. Then try to accept your decision. Then when you are NOT fretting about it you will be alert to any signs or symptoms of disharmony because then you will need to act. Sorry for that..so easy for me to say. xxBeanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09799238648936150415noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2578946806790913213.post-59232896130112945722011-03-29T14:40:41.899+10:002011-03-29T14:40:41.899+10:00oh shit... i need to come back and read this post ...oh shit... i need to come back and read this post later..<br />Have read the 1st para and my brain is screaming..<br />... doesn't Aston have a right NOT to have a father if he isn't going to be the sort of role model that you think is worthy for your son..<br /><br />I am no doubt transferring my baggage onto your situatuon and so I will come back later when I have finished peeling the veges and finish reading your post.. honour it with a reading and comprehension consummate with the time and thought that went into writing it.<br /><br />You are one hell of an awesome mother..trust your instinct and what you know in your heart is in his best interest.. well.. that is my gut speaking and you really shouldn't listen to someone such as myself when you consider some of my demonstrable lack of judgement of late.. have been chatting to Silvano all morning and that is worthy of a blog post of its own!!<br /><br />love you Vicky bear xxBeanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09799238648936150415noreply@blogger.com