tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2578946806790913213.post1587833215921519372..comments2023-10-11T02:04:56.513+10:00Comments on Life on the hill: 15 years...Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17077972791398339893noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2578946806790913213.post-20418659202586779002011-10-11T18:06:54.312+10:002011-10-11T18:06:54.312+10:00Oh Vicky...
How anyone survives being 15 is beyond...Oh Vicky...<br />How anyone survives being 15 is beyond me... The scars from events in my life when I was 15 still make me flinch and affect everything I do.. if I don't take care. You have taken more care than anyone I know to prevent this happening and for that I applaud you. I wonder what is 'driving' anonymous? It certainly isn't empathy or any REAL understanding of your lifes journey.<br /><br />You and Laura will be ok..I feel sure of it. I just think it may be a while in coming to pass..<br /><br />Must keep reading...and I must do some blogging myself. I'm still kicking and fighting so that is a plus..Beanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09799238648936150415noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2578946806790913213.post-84950040167044508702011-10-07T06:42:28.824+10:002011-10-07T06:42:28.824+10:00This must be hellish for you, no matter what was s...This must be hellish for you, no matter what was said or how it came about.... I was the kid in a similar situation - the kid who went to live with the father. Except, I didn't have a choice (but my mother told everyone that it had been my decision). So I hear what you're saying about perspective. Everyone's truth is the truth, especially in such highly emotive circumstances as these, because there is so much feeling involved. And feelings can never be wrong. Ever. <br />I feel for you deeply, no matter how her leaving came about. I reckon what matters now is the new relationship you forge with your daughter. It is going to take on a new shape no matter what, and that part will surely take some time for you to grieve.Being Mehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08600427311498297800noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2578946806790913213.post-66797460349411654032011-10-02T21:36:33.655+10:002011-10-02T21:36:33.655+10:00The beauty of life is that people are able to make...The beauty of life is that people are able to make mistakes, own them and move forward. Both parties have made mistakes, both have made BIG mistakes. Said extremely hurtful things, done extremely hurtful things. Part of being "mature" is owning up to ones own part in the problem. Part of being "mature" is to be able to swallow one's pride and put their ego aside and say sorry. Having a fucked up childhood myself, the 15 year old in me also sits back and says "really? thats why your life is so "hard"? But the adult in me can put that feeling aside, like the mumma in you Vick and see that to her, Laura, her life sucks. Or "apparently" sucks.Kirsty Leenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2578946806790913213.post-30531495807485441032011-10-02T21:16:06.373+10:002011-10-02T21:16:06.373+10:00As you feel you know so much about the situation w...As you feel you know so much about the situation why are you afraid to put your name to your comments?<br /><br />As for whether she misses me - I don't know that as to date she does not wish to speak to me.<br /><br />None of my past is any of Laura's fault... and I have never, and would never say that. This post is about my experiences with PTSD and acute anxiety, and how it consequently invades situations, and affects me mentally and physically.<br /><br />Perspective is a funny thing. A situation can look completely different to two individuals, based on their own sets of experiences and filters.<br /><br />so just as I am being accused of conveniently not remembering not giving you, I mean, her a choice, there are facts that seem to have be conveniently forgotten or chosen not to be focussed on from your part. And I say YOUR PART because clearly from your commentary you are someone who has something to do with my family.<br /><br />Before passing judgement, at least have the decency to gather all the information from all parties involved, and have the balls to own your comments.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17077972791398339893noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2578946806790913213.post-6015340539509258502011-10-01T18:03:14.854+10:002011-10-01T18:03:14.854+10:00And I grasp that you didn't have a 'normal...And I grasp that you didn't have a 'normal' upbringing, but how is that any if her fault? <br />You say yourself that your 15 year old self takes over and clearly, with her moving to her fathers, letting your inner 15 year old take control has had negative outcomes. <br /><br />You miss her, she obviously misses you, but there is one vital part of information to why she has moved to her fathers. <br /><br />YOU DIDN'T GIVE HER A CHOICE. You told her to get out. That she wasn't allowed in 'your' house anymore. <br />But conveniently, whenever someone asks you about that, you say you 'don't seem to remember'. <br />Funny that hmm?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2578946806790913213.post-52900342833073325202011-10-01T15:21:29.866+10:002011-10-01T15:21:29.866+10:00Every minute of every day....
I think you have mi...Every minute of every day.... <br />I think you have missed the point.<br />I don't have a "normal" point of reference so consequently I have actively sort out information to try and understand.<br /><br />I miss my daughter so much that I cry thinking about her, looking at pictures of her, and seeing teenage girls of a similar age...<br /><br />So yes I HAVE thought about how SHE was dealing with all this change.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17077972791398339893noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2578946806790913213.post-23547558738535908182011-10-01T15:03:01.147+10:002011-10-01T15:03:01.147+10:00Did you ever think about how SHE was dealing with ...Did you ever think about how SHE was dealing with all this change in her life? <br /><br />Just a thought...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2578946806790913213.post-14339769397880220132011-09-05T20:13:56.893+10:002011-09-05T20:13:56.893+10:00This is nothing you have done or not done. It'...This is nothing you have done or not done. It's wings stretching and not giving a shit who gets hurt because of it (remind me when my girls are doing this please!)<br />You will both survive this.<br />My heart aches for the hurt you are feeling.<br />Luv youAnna Tnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2578946806790913213.post-51616844140490220652011-09-05T11:01:02.144+10:002011-09-05T11:01:02.144+10:00Hi Vicky
What a great thing, that you can honestl...Hi Vicky<br /><br />What a great thing, that you can honestly look at your own emotions and experiences - Then, have the insight and self-awareness to be truthful about how these affect your own parenting. Don't under-estimate your strength and courage in being able to do this.<br /><br />What a time for you.<br /><br />15. <br /><br />What a number. What an age. It brings up so much.<br /><br />Writing is such a beautiful healing process for us mother bloggers. I feel you. And I Thank you for sharing.<br /><br />You really are an amazing, incredible woman. Look at you - standing, writing, alive. Having created the biggest miracle of all - The miracle of human life. And of course, your choice to love, when you could so easily live a life full of hate and rage.<br /><br />I respect you.<br /><br />Lina<br /><br />By the way - I couldn't let this slip without saying something - Your father's violence was continual, not just that "one-off".Lina@MothersLoveLettershttp://mothersloveletters.comnoreply@blogger.com